I woke up this morning on my way to work when I got an urgent text message from my friend in Asia. She pleaded for me to help save the relationship of her two friends. I decided to stop what I was doing to Skpye with them. I didn’t know this couple, they were two complete stranger, but their relationship was falling apart.
Before I got on Skype they were fighting. When I finally got on Skype I
Gods laws of recognition
This past weekend we had a GBS men ministry outing in Pasadena Ca. After we shot some archery, our mens ministry leader Freddy Harteis took us men to a quite spot in the woods to share with us what it takes to be a man of God. More so, he shares with us how God challenged him to find satisfaction in being single for the Lord. He then shared with us how he sought God for four years as a single man and would not let down his standard for the perfect mate. Well, it wasn’t his standard, but God’s standards on being equally yoked with another. He finally found her (Jeannie Mai – super amazing woman of God), but it’s not just about finding the right person, but preparing yourself to be the right person.
Study the below laws for godly dating… read it, weep, and don’t settle for less than God’s best. Don’t let your heart deceive you, but let God’s unchanging principles guide you. You will be of good courage if you find your soul satisfaction always in the Lord, not another, then you will be able to truly love another.
This is the last post from my young but super wise friend Becky Hill on “Romance & Relationships” it’s an addendum to the last post on God’s Hand & Our Heart. I personally enjoyed this post very much, because it brought so much clarity on God’s sovereignty in relationships and our personal response to His leading. I’m realizing more and more how love is free, it is a choice and it completely focused on the other not yourself. May God give us all grace and wisdom to walk out healthy relationships, especially with the opposite sex. Pray. Keep your heart pure. Follow God. Learn to love. Enjoy the journey! :D
As I’ve been talking to friends recently about some of the issues of R&R #3 coming up in their lives, I realized that I need to clarify a few things. There are two aspects to the formation of every romantic relationship: 1) the Lord’s sovereignty [God's hand], and 2) our choices [our heart]. You cannot exclusively operate in one or the other if you desire to walk in righteousness and wisdom in a relationship.
Part of the reason I have been posting this series of blogs on “Romance & Relationships” from my friend Becky is because her posts really helped me in gaining right perspective on God’s purpose in relationships in general. For most of my life, I came from a Christian charismatic tradition that believed in “the one”. Although, this idea is a good notion, I believe it can be dangerous if not understood in the right context. It’s not that I don’t believe in the one, but I believe God is a God of LOVE and relationships are about love, not obligation. God does not obligate us to love Him, so why do we think He would obligate us to love someone else? Love is a choice, an act of the will, a personal decision that requires choosing to love someone not because you have to, but because you want to. I choose to love God. In the same way, God is a good Father who will in His sovereign love suggest someone to us that would be a great match, but ultimately it is our choice to respond in love to that person.
I am continuing on the blog series “Romance & Relationships” from my friend Becky’s blog. I take no claim to fame with the below nuggets of wisdom on how to approach a romantic relationship in a godly way. These nuggets below are pure gold, so take them to heart and put them into action. As a word of encouragement if you have messed up in your relationships in the past, remember that God’s mercies are new every morning. Learn from your mistakes, ask God for a pure heart and seek to do what is honorable and right.
The below post from Becky has helped me think through the necessity of “confrontation” in relationships. If you are a guy or girl pursuing another I pray that you would find the courage to be honest, truthful and clear with your intentions with the opposite sex. Don’t play with hearts, it only leads to unnecessary pain. Be mature and think about the others heart, before you think about yours. Love is selfless, not selfish. All the best!
1) A free (honest/truthful/pure) motivation is the key
2) Confrontation is necessary and God given
3) It’s God’s hand & our heart
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